Loving Others in West Virginia

This love story takes place at the Bhavana Society in High View, West Virginia.  Bhavana is a Buddhist forest monastery in the Theravada tradition.  While it’s an incredible place, listed as one of the most sacred locales by National Geographic, I found love here in a slightly circuitous route.  And yes, one of the most […]

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Help Finding Love

As a coach, you might think I wouldn’t need a coach myself.  You’d be wrong. I’m human and as a result I have; insecurities, challenges, issues, problems, dreams, and goals.  Just because I know about emotional intelligence, mindfulness, and purposeful living, doesn’t mean I’m immune to the self-limiting voices that patrol my mind.  Shoot – […]

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Building a Boat

After years of building, I have a boat.  Not a literal boat, but a figurative one – a metaphor for my life. During my early adult years, this boat began as a wooden dingy – quick, small, fragile, and full of leaks.  As I got older, the craft got faster, more agile, yet nearly rudderless […]

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The Quest for Truth

In my early 20’s, I was frustrated with life.  While I had good jobs, I felt my life lacked meaning and purpose.  If I could ask my 23-year-old self, “what’s your purpose homey?”  23-year-old Dan would probably answer, “uhhhhhh, getting drunk ON purpose?” My days consisted of me waking up, going to work from 8am […]

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The Darkest Days of My Career

The other day, I was asked the question, “when times were tough running your business, what got you through it?”  While the person didn’t explicitly say this, I implied that the “it” they were referring to was; worry, doubt, anguish, fear, or any other mental demon that lurks in the darkest corners of our minds. […]

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Boo’ing and Loving the President

As a lifelong baseball fan, it had been a dream to see my team play in a World Series.  Knowing this dream and being a huge fan herself, my Mom surprised me and bought us two tickets to see our Nationals play the Astros in Game 5 of the World Series last October. I’ve been […]

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How Are You Doing, Part II

On January 30, 2019, I published a post called, “How Are You Doing.” It was a cynical take on the frequent greeting we use in the United States to address a co-worker, neighbor, delivery person, friend, or anyone else we happen to see out in public.  Basically, my view at the time was when we […]

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Making Friends with My Reactive Side

“Don’t be reactive!”  “Be grateful!”  “Don’t operate from a place of fear!”  Other than the grim corona-related news, our media and social feeds seem to be filled with lots of people telling us how to “be” during this clusterf*ck state of affairs.  I’m guilty of this as I recently published Keeping Your Mind Virus Free, […]

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Stay the F*ck Home

As a coach and writer, I have taken an unofficial vow to never tell you what to do.  Today, I am breaking that vow.  Stay the f*ck home (if you can). For those of you in the United States, we have just begun to deal with major disruptions to our everyday lives caused by the […]

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Keeping My Mind Virus Free

WARNING – this is a Coronavirus post.  However, please note that this post is NOT meant to drive you into a COVID-19 depression or have you locking yourself in a zombie apocalypse bunker.  This is my attempt to put into words, how I was overcome with the emotion, Fear, and what I was able to […]

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Shopping for Transformation

A couple of years ago, I had a pretty nasty fall off my mountain bike.  After hitting a rock, I was thrown from my bike and found myself rolling down a cliff that led to a creek some 200 feet below.  Sliding for about 20 feet, I was able to grab onto some roots that […]

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Purpose > Goals

By conventional standards, 2019 was an enormous failure. At the beginning of the year, I laid out all of my goals in precise detail.  I had a list of 18, which you can read about here. Looking back, I only completed 4 of those goals: Establish a coaching business Achieve a certificate from Georgetown in […]

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The Dark Side of Meditation

I’m guessing a lot of bloggers at one point or another, fall off the proverbial horse and fail to publish a post over an extended period of time.  Well, this is me getting back on the horse.  What you might not have heard from other writers is the excuse I am going to toss out […]

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F Your Thoughts – They Aren’t Yours Anyway

Let me start by saying, I’m a loser.  One of my goals for the year was to publish a blog post every week.  For those of you counting at home, the last two weeks have come and gone without your weekly dose of Fired and Free fireside chats over terminations, productivity tips, personal insecurities, or […]

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Avalanche of Jealousy

For the past year, my primary occupation has been that of real estate investor.  To date, I have invested in two mobile home parks and my partners and I will be closing on a small apartment building in April. I have taken the methodical approach to starting up this business with a “slow and steady” […]

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Vacation Here and You’ll Never Want to Leave

Have you ever visited a place so wonderful that an urge came over you to just stay?  Not, just stay for another day or two, but to stay forever?  I have this feeling during most fantastic vacations.  The first time I remember this occurring was when I was 10 years old, while on vacation with […]

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The Case for Poly Love

Until two years ago, I wasn’t aware of anyone in a polyamorous relationship. While traveling around Northern Idaho, I had taken my kids to a park.  After some time, a large van drove up and a man, two young women and five kids, jumped out and joined my children on the jungle gym and swings.  […]

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Creating a FUC’ing Mission

With the help of my weekly men’s group, I have recently refined my life’s mission statement.  It is – “I create a world that is unified, free, and curious by speaking my truth, exploring new opportunities, and leading by example.” If you’re anything like me, you may have read that statement and thought, “holy big […]

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