Escaping A Mental Prison

Yesterday, I woke up in a bad mood. Edgy, cranky, sad, and a bit irritable. The reason?  I had been dwelling on what to do with the rest of my life. Questions like, “what’s my purpose,” “where am I going,” “how can I best help,” were peppering my consciousness and pulling me out of the […]

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Taming Hulk

You can change. I know you can change, because I recently changed something about myself that has been haunting me for years.  For as long as I can remember, there has been a Hulk lurking within me.  This big, green, angry, Hulk, is the side of me who is ready to pulverize anyone or anything […]

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The Stallion Story

Recently, I’ve been spending more time then I’d like to admit, ruminating about tomorrow’s election and the future of my country. A friend put into words a good descriptor of what the last week (months!?) or so has felt like, when she said, “it’s as though we are all waiting for the results of a […]

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Get Kicked in the Face

My daily meditation practice consists of around 45 minutes in the morning, before my kids wake up (and all hell breaks loose) and 45 minutes in the evening, before I go to sleep for the night. It’s as basic of a practice as one can find – I sit on a plastic foldout chair in […]

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Loving Others in West Virginia

This love story takes place at the Bhavana Society in High View, West Virginia.  Bhavana is a Buddhist forest monastery in the Theravada tradition.  While it’s an incredible place, listed as one of the most sacred locales by National Geographic, I found love here in a slightly circuitous route.  And yes, one of the most […]

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The Quest for Truth

In my early 20’s, I was frustrated with life.  While I had good jobs, I felt my life lacked meaning and purpose.  If I could ask my 23-year-old self, “what’s your purpose homey?”  23-year-old Dan would probably answer, “uhhhhhh, getting drunk ON purpose?” My days consisted of me waking up, going to work from 8am […]

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The Darkest Days of My Career

The other day, I was asked the question, “when times were tough running your business, what got you through it?”  While the person didn’t explicitly say this, I implied that the “it” they were referring to was; worry, doubt, anguish, fear, or any other mental demon that lurks in the darkest corners of our minds. […]

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Stay the F*ck Home

As a coach and writer, I have taken an unofficial vow to never tell you what to do.  Today, I am breaking that vow.  Stay the f*ck home (if you can). For those of you in the United States, we have just begun to deal with major disruptions to our everyday lives caused by the […]

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Keeping My Mind Virus Free

WARNING – this is a Coronavirus post.  However, please note that this post is NOT meant to drive you into a COVID-19 depression or have you locking yourself in a zombie apocalypse bunker.  This is my attempt to put into words, how I was overcome with the emotion, Fear, and what I was able to […]

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Shopping for Transformation

A couple of years ago, I had a pretty nasty fall off my mountain bike.  After hitting a rock, I was thrown from my bike and found myself rolling down a cliff that led to a creek some 200 feet below.  Sliding for about 20 feet, I was able to grab onto some roots that […]

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The Dark Side of Meditation

I’m guessing a lot of bloggers at one point or another, fall off the proverbial horse and fail to publish a post over an extended period of time.  Well, this is me getting back on the horse.  What you might not have heard from other writers is the excuse I am going to toss out […]

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Want to Improve? Get a Coach

The first coach I ever had was my Dad.  When my buddies and I turned five in 1984, someone decided that we should all play soccer.  The only problem was, no one had a Father (or Mother) who knew anything about the sport.  My Dad aka “Coach D,” stepped up and took the reins. After […]

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How to Do Something by Doing Nothing

On Saturday, I achieved a feat so remarkable, they should probably write a book about me (or a blog post).  For 30 straight minutes, I “played Legos” with my 5-year-old without checking my phone, glancing at a magazine or talking to another person.  My daughter had my complete focus and attention.  I was fully present […]

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Men, We Need to Talk

My last post, Craving Community, wasn’t the most uplifting to write.  Maybe you are someone who enjoys reading about the loneliness of a random blogger, but it didn’t feel great admitting to the internet that I’m a bit lonely during the hours of 9am and 3pm (when my kids are at school).  With that said, […]

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Married and In Love?

When I proposed to my wife, I wasn’t sure I loved her. We had been together for a little over a year and gotten to know each other pretty well.  I enjoyed spending time with Jenny, but did I really truly madly love her?  In hindsight, I probably rushed into proposing to her, but at […]

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The Problem With Language

In 2006, my girlfriend and I were driving back from a skiing trip.  During the car ride we dreamed aloud how it would be fun to live in a foreign country one day.  In hindsight, I was probably just agreeing with her to sound equally impressive with grandiose plans for the future.  The next day, […]

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Last Life

Growing up, I loved video games.  Probably not in a 2018 sense where kids spend 23 hours out of the day playing Red Dead Redemption 2, Metal Gear Survive or God of War (this list courtesy of the google).  If my 9-year-old self had his way, I would have spent every waking hour burning my […]

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Getting Fired, Part 1

After graduating college, I have worked for 5 companies.  2 of these companies have fired me.  Thus, 40% of my previous employers like to end my employment with them by kicking my ass to the curb.  Ouch. I feel for anyone who loses their job.  It’s not fun feeling unwanted.  For those of you who […]

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