The Case for Poly Love

Until two years ago, I wasn’t aware of anyone in a polyamorous relationship. While traveling around Northern Idaho, I had taken my kids to a park.  After some time, a large van drove up and a man, two young women and five kids, jumped out and joined my children on the jungle gym and swings.  […]

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Creating a FUC’ing Mission

With the help of my weekly men’s group, I have recently refined my life’s mission statement.  It is – “I create a world that is unified, free, and curious by speaking my truth, exploring new opportunities, and leading by example.” If you’re anything like me, you may have read that statement and thought, “holy big […]

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Want to Improve? Get a Coach

The first coach I ever had was my Dad.  When my buddies and I turned five in 1984, someone decided that we should all play soccer.  The only problem was, no one had a Father (or Mother) who knew anything about the sport.  My Dad aka “Coach D,” stepped up and took the reins. After […]

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How to Do Something by Doing Nothing

On Saturday, I achieved a feat so remarkable, they should probably write a book about me (or a blog post).  For 30 straight minutes, I “played Legos” with my 5-year-old without checking my phone, glancing at a magazine or talking to another person.  My daughter had my complete focus and attention.  I was fully present […]

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How I Planned Every Minute of 2019

I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions.  My thinking has always been, if I need to make an important change, then I should do it today, rather than wait for an imaginary moment on the calendar.  Therefore, I completely surprised myself when I spent nearly 6 hours on Wednesday planning out 2019.  I […]

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Married and In Love?

When I proposed to my wife, I wasn’t sure I loved her. We had been together for a little over a year and gotten to know each other pretty well.  I enjoyed spending time with Jenny, but did I really truly madly love her?  In hindsight, I probably rushed into proposing to her, but at […]

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What Do You Do All Day?

“What do you do all day,” is a question I get asked somewhat frequently.  If I had to speculate, I’d guess friends and family are curious what one does all day long when there is no job to attend and no real retirement to enjoy.  It’s not an unfair question and I’d probably ask the […]

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Last Life

Growing up, I loved video games.  Probably not in a 2018 sense where kids spend 23 hours out of the day playing Red Dead Redemption 2, Metal Gear Survive or God of War (this list courtesy of the google).  If my 9-year-old self had his way, I would have spent every waking hour burning my […]

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