Empathy > Judgement

One night, as I walked out of my house to attend a meeting, I noticed a person coming down the sidewalk towards me.  Instinctively, I looked up and added a perfunctory, “how ya doing?”  What I quickly realized was this person was not doing well at all.  Extremely thin, with a distant stare, walking at […]

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Escaping A Mental Prison

Yesterday, I woke up in a bad mood. Edgy, cranky, sad, and a bit irritable. The reason?  I had been dwelling on what to do with the rest of my life. Questions like, “what’s my purpose,” “where am I going,” “how can I best help,” were peppering my consciousness and pulling me out of the […]

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Taming Hulk

You can change. I know you can change, because I recently changed something about myself that has been haunting me for years.  For as long as I can remember, there has been a Hulk lurking within me.  This big, green, angry, Hulk, is the side of me who is ready to pulverize anyone or anything […]

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Get Kicked in the Face

My daily meditation practice consists of around 45 minutes in the morning, before my kids wake up (and all hell breaks loose) and 45 minutes in the evening, before I go to sleep for the night. It’s as basic of a practice as one can find – I sit on a plastic foldout chair in […]

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Loving Others in West Virginia

This love story takes place at the Bhavana Society in High View, West Virginia.  Bhavana is a Buddhist forest monastery in the Theravada tradition.  While it’s an incredible place, listed as one of the most sacred locales by National Geographic, I found love here in a slightly circuitous route.  And yes, one of the most […]

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Help Finding Love

As a coach, you might think I wouldn’t need a coach myself.  You’d be wrong. I’m human and as a result I have; insecurities, challenges, issues, problems, dreams, and goals.  Just because I know about emotional intelligence, mindfulness, and purposeful living, doesn’t mean I’m immune to the self-limiting voices that patrol my mind.  Shoot – […]

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The Quest for Truth

In my early 20’s, I was frustrated with life.  While I had good jobs, I felt my life lacked meaning and purpose.  If I could ask my 23-year-old self, “what’s your purpose homey?”  23-year-old Dan would probably answer, “uhhhhhh, getting drunk ON purpose?” My days consisted of me waking up, going to work from 8am […]

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Making Friends with My Reactive Side

“Don’t be reactive!”  “Be grateful!”  “Don’t operate from a place of fear!”  Other than the grim corona-related news, our media and social feeds seem to be filled with lots of people telling us how to “be” during this clusterf*ck state of affairs.  I’m guilty of this as I recently published Keeping Your Mind Virus Free, […]

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Shopping for Transformation

A couple of years ago, I had a pretty nasty fall off my mountain bike.  After hitting a rock, I was thrown from my bike and found myself rolling down a cliff that led to a creek some 200 feet below.  Sliding for about 20 feet, I was able to grab onto some roots that […]

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Purpose > Goals

By conventional standards, 2019 was an enormous failure. At the beginning of the year, I laid out all of my goals in precise detail.  I had a list of 18, which you can read about here. Looking back, I only completed 4 of those goals: Establish a coaching business Achieve a certificate from Georgetown in […]

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