How Are You Doing, Part II

On January 30, 2019, I published a post called, “How Are You Doing.” It was a cynical take on the frequent greeting we use in the United States to address a co-worker, neighbor, delivery person, friend, or anyone else we happen to see out in public.  Basically, my view at the time was when we […]

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Making Friends with My Reactive Side

“Don’t be reactive!”  “Be grateful!”  “Don’t operate from a place of fear!”  Other than the grim corona-related news, our media and social feeds seem to be filled with lots of people telling us how to “be” during this clusterf*ck state of affairs.  I’m guilty of this as I recently published Keeping Your Mind Virus Free, […]

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Keeping My Mind Virus Free

WARNING – this is a Coronavirus post.  However, please note that this post is NOT meant to drive you into a COVID-19 depression or have you locking yourself in a zombie apocalypse bunker.  This is my attempt to put into words, how I was overcome with the emotion, Fear, and what I was able to […]

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Shopping for Transformation

A couple of years ago, I had a pretty nasty fall off my mountain bike.  After hitting a rock, I was thrown from my bike and found myself rolling down a cliff that led to a creek some 200 feet below.  Sliding for about 20 feet, I was able to grab onto some roots that […]

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Purpose > Goals

By conventional standards, 2019 was an enormous failure. At the beginning of the year, I laid out all of my goals in precise detail.  I had a list of 18, which you can read about here. Looking back, I only completed 4 of those goals: Establish a coaching business Achieve a certificate from Georgetown in […]

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The Dark Side of Meditation

I’m guessing a lot of bloggers at one point or another, fall off the proverbial horse and fail to publish a post over an extended period of time.  Well, this is me getting back on the horse.  What you might not have heard from other writers is the excuse I am going to toss out […]

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F Your Thoughts – They Aren’t Yours Anyway

Let me start by saying, I’m a loser.  One of my goals for the year was to publish a blog post every week.  For those of you counting at home, the last two weeks have come and gone without your weekly dose of Fired and Free fireside chats over terminations, productivity tips, personal insecurities, or […]

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Avalanche of Jealousy

For the past year, my primary occupation has been that of real estate investor.  To date, I have invested in two mobile home parks and my partners and I will be closing on a small apartment building in April. I have taken the methodical approach to starting up this business with a “slow and steady” […]

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Vacation Here and You’ll Never Want to Leave

Have you ever visited a place so wonderful that an urge came over you to just stay?  Not, just stay for another day or two, but to stay forever?  I have this feeling during most fantastic vacations.  The first time I remember this occurring was when I was 10 years old, while on vacation with […]

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The Case for Poly Love

Until two years ago, I wasn’t aware of anyone in a polyamorous relationship. While traveling around Northern Idaho, I had taken my kids to a park.  After some time, a large van drove up and a man, two young women and five kids, jumped out and joined my children on the jungle gym and swings.  […]

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Creating a FUC’ing Mission

With the help of my weekly men’s group, I have recently refined my life’s mission statement.  It is – “I create a world that is unified, free, and curious by speaking my truth, exploring new opportunities, and leading by example.” If you’re anything like me, you may have read that statement and thought, “holy big […]

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Work vs Real Work

When I was 25, I got a call from a friend who was working for a prestigious consulting firm in the DC Area called, Booz Allen Hamilton.  My friend informed me they were hiring and asked if I would be interested in coming in for an interview.  Needless to say, I was honored to be […]

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Want to Improve? Get a Coach

The first coach I ever had was my Dad.  When my buddies and I turned five in 1984, someone decided that we should all play soccer.  The only problem was, no one had a Father (or Mother) who knew anything about the sport.  My Dad aka “Coach D,” stepped up and took the reins. After […]

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How Are You Doing?

When I see that Barista at Starbucks and greet them with a “how’ya doin man?” I’m not expecting Millennial Mike to answer, “you’re the 500th f*cking customer today to ask, “how I’m doing,” I wish everyone would stop f*cking prying into my life.  How do you think I’m doing?  It’s 6:45am, I’ve been here since […]

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Deciding the Future of Humankind

I recently finished the book, Sapiens, by Yuval Noah Harari.  In my humble opinion, this should be required reading for all humanity.  Harari provides an easy to read summary on the 200,000 year old history of our species.  Throughout this time, these ancestors were nearly identical to our present selves in terms of cognitive and […]

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How to Do Something by Doing Nothing

On Saturday, I achieved a feat so remarkable, they should probably write a book about me (or a blog post).  For 30 straight minutes, I “played Legos” with my 5-year-old without checking my phone, glancing at a magazine or talking to another person.  My daughter had my complete focus and attention.  I was fully present […]

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How I Planned Every Minute of 2019

I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions.  My thinking has always been, if I need to make an important change, then I should do it today, rather than wait for an imaginary moment on the calendar.  Therefore, I completely surprised myself when I spent nearly 6 hours on Wednesday planning out 2019.  I […]

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Men, We Need to Talk

My last post, Craving Community, wasn’t the most uplifting to write.  Maybe you are someone who enjoys reading about the loneliness of a random blogger, but it didn’t feel great admitting to the internet that I’m a bit lonely during the hours of 9am and 3pm (when my kids are at school).  With that said, […]

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