The Embarrassing Kiss

Recently, during a small gathering of friends, the question was asked, “what is the most embarrassing moment of your life?”  Many of these stories were being shared publicly for the first time.  As I listened, I felt honored to hear my friend’s heartfelt answers ranging from; public speaking mishaps, issues with bodily fluids, and serious […]

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Empathy > Judgement

One night, as I walked out of my house to attend a meeting, I noticed a person coming down the sidewalk towards me.  Instinctively, I looked up and added a perfunctory, “how ya doing?”  What I quickly realized was this person was not doing well at all.  Extremely thin, with a distant stare, walking at […]

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The Stallion Story

Recently, I’ve been spending more time then I’d like to admit, ruminating about tomorrow’s election and the future of my country. A friend put into words a good descriptor of what the last week (months!?) or so has felt like, when she said, “it’s as though we are all waiting for the results of a […]

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Get Kicked in the Face

My daily meditation practice consists of around 45 minutes in the morning, before my kids wake up (and all hell breaks loose) and 45 minutes in the evening, before I go to sleep for the night. It’s as basic of a practice as one can find – I sit on a plastic foldout chair in […]

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Building a Boat

After years of building, I have a boat.  Not a literal boat, but a figurative one – a metaphor for my life. During my early adult years, this boat began as a wooden dingy – quick, small, fragile, and full of leaks.  As I got older, the craft got faster, more agile, yet nearly rudderless […]

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Boo’ing and Loving the President

As a lifelong baseball fan, it had been a dream to see my team play in a World Series.  Knowing this dream and being a huge fan herself, my Mom surprised me and bought us two tickets to see our Nationals play the Astros in Game 5 of the World Series last October. I’ve been […]

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How Are You Doing, Part II

On January 30, 2019, I published a post called, “How Are You Doing.” It was a cynical take on the frequent greeting we use in the United States to address a co-worker, neighbor, delivery person, friend, or anyone else we happen to see out in public.  Basically, my view at the time was when we […]

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Making Friends with My Reactive Side

“Don’t be reactive!”  “Be grateful!”  “Don’t operate from a place of fear!”  Other than the grim corona-related news, our media and social feeds seem to be filled with lots of people telling us how to “be” during this clusterf*ck state of affairs.  I’m guilty of this as I recently published Keeping Your Mind Virus Free, […]

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Stay the F*ck Home

As a coach and writer, I have taken an unofficial vow to never tell you what to do.  Today, I am breaking that vow.  Stay the f*ck home (if you can). For those of you in the United States, we have just begun to deal with major disruptions to our everyday lives caused by the […]

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Keeping My Mind Virus Free

WARNING – this is a Coronavirus post.  However, please note that this post is NOT meant to drive you into a COVID-19 depression or have you locking yourself in a zombie apocalypse bunker.  This is my attempt to put into words, how I was overcome with the emotion, Fear, and what I was able to […]

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Shopping for Transformation

A couple of years ago, I had a pretty nasty fall off my mountain bike.  After hitting a rock, I was thrown from my bike and found myself rolling down a cliff that led to a creek some 200 feet below.  Sliding for about 20 feet, I was able to grab onto some roots that […]

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Purpose > Goals

By conventional standards, 2019 was an enormous failure. At the beginning of the year, I laid out all of my goals in precise detail.  I had a list of 18, which you can read about here. Looking back, I only completed 4 of those goals: Establish a coaching business Achieve a certificate from Georgetown in […]

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Avalanche of Jealousy

For the past year, my primary occupation has been that of real estate investor.  To date, I have invested in two mobile home parks and my partners and I will be closing on a small apartment building in April. I have taken the methodical approach to starting up this business with a “slow and steady” […]

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The Case for Poly Love

Until two years ago, I wasn’t aware of anyone in a polyamorous relationship. While traveling around Northern Idaho, I had taken my kids to a park.  After some time, a large van drove up and a man, two young women and five kids, jumped out and joined my children on the jungle gym and swings.  […]

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Creating a FUC’ing Mission

With the help of my weekly men’s group, I have recently refined my life’s mission statement.  It is – “I create a world that is unified, free, and curious by speaking my truth, exploring new opportunities, and leading by example.” If you’re anything like me, you may have read that statement and thought, “holy big […]

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Work vs Real Work

When I was 25, I got a call from a friend who was working for a prestigious consulting firm in the DC Area called, Booz Allen Hamilton.  My friend informed me they were hiring and asked if I would be interested in coming in for an interview.  Needless to say, I was honored to be […]

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How Are You Doing?

When I see that Barista at Starbucks and greet them with a “how’ya doin man?” I’m not expecting Millennial Mike to answer, “you’re the 500th f*cking customer today to ask, “how I’m doing,” I wish everyone would stop f*cking prying into my life.  How do you think I’m doing?  It’s 6:45am, I’ve been here since […]

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The Problem With Language

In 2006, my girlfriend and I were driving back from a skiing trip.  During the car ride we dreamed aloud how it would be fun to live in a foreign country one day.  In hindsight, I was probably just agreeing with her to sound equally impressive with grandiose plans for the future.  The next day, […]

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Your Reality is Your Reality

I’m the luckiest person you’ve ever met (online).  Seriously.  No one has more luck than me.  What gives me this confidence?  Well, for starters, I’ve got a wife who’s willing to fight for my honor, supportive parents, beautiful and healthy kids, wonderful friends, solid health, a nice home and enough money to pay for things […]

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